1. Who
is responsible for Tyler's Death? Perhaps more than one person is
responsible? You may want to place responsibility based on percentage.
Some examples of who may hold responsibility are, Tyler himself, Tyler's
Parents, Dharun Ravi, Molly Wei, or even Rutger's university?
The key person we should hold responsible for Tyler's death is Tyler himself. He is the one who chose to end his life. Someone did not murder him purposely or force him to kill himself. We all have free will. He decided he couldn't take life anymore and chose to use his free will to kill himself. He was unable to look ahead and see that maybe things could get better. He was unable to move on. And I don't blame him. It was a horrible situation and if I was in his spot, I can't honestly say that I would be able to forgive, forget and move on. But he was responsible for his own death.
I just want to be clear. I'm not excusing Ravi and Wei. I believe that Dharun Ravi and Molly Wei committed a horrible crime doing what they did. It was an invasion of privacy. It was illegal. They should NOT have done it and I'm not excusing what they did.
People could blame Ravi and Wei because they're the ones who taped the video and watched it. People could blame his parents or more specifically his mom for not accepting him at first. For making him feel shut out. People could blame Rutgers University for not taking action quick enough to prevent Tyler from committing suicide. But in the end, it was Tyler's fault.
People could blame Ravi and Wei because they're the ones who taped the video and watched it. People could blame his parents or more specifically his mom for not accepting him at first. For making him feel shut out. People could blame Rutgers University for not taking action quick enough to prevent Tyler from committing suicide. But in the end, it was Tyler's fault.
2.
Is there something that could have been done to prevent this? It seems
like some people watched the posted video, why didn't anyone step up?
This entire situation bothers me. The whole idea that Ravi would do that to Clementi, would turn on a webcam when Tyler specifically requested to be alone bothers me. The idea that Wei would watch it along with four other people in the room. This is what's wrong with our society. No one thinks of how the other person, the victim, feels like. Few want to take a stand for whats right. And those that do get beaten down.
What could have been done to prevent this?
Well, for starters, Ravi could've looked outside of himself and see how HE would feel if Tyler did that to him. He could've not posted it all on the internet. Wei could've used better judgment and respect and not watched it with her friends. Wei could've told Ravi that he was wrong doing that to Tyler. Wei could've reported Ravi. But they didn't.
Well, for starters, Ravi could've looked outside of himself and see how HE would feel if Tyler did that to him. He could've not posted it all on the internet. Wei could've used better judgment and respect and not watched it with her friends. Wei could've told Ravi that he was wrong doing that to Tyler. Wei could've reported Ravi. But they didn't.
Why did nobody step up?
Because we're innately human. Our driving instinct is to survive. Doing anything that singles us out is contradictory to how we operate. We're scared to stand up for what's right for fear that we will be rejected. We're scared that we could be the next victim.
Because we're innately human. Our driving instinct is to survive. Doing anything that singles us out is contradictory to how we operate. We're scared to stand up for what's right for fear that we will be rejected. We're scared that we could be the next victim.
People also get enjoyment out of another person's pain. Out of another person's humiliation. A perfect example of this is the story of Amanda Todd. Another adolescent who committed suicide due to extreme cyber harassment and bullying. Because this girl made one mistake, her life was forever changed. People turned on her and called her horrible things. She committed suicide because she felt like nobody would ever forgive her for her mistake. That she was worthless and worse than scum.
Why do people not stand up for people like this? Well, maybe it's because it makes us feel less abnormal. Maybe it gives us security. Maybe it gives us relief that we're not the only ones who get caught in bad situations. Or who get publicly embarrassed. We fear being alone. We'd rather go with the crowd than stand up for what is morally correct. We'd rather hurt someone else than be hurt ourselves.
Why do people not stand up for people like this? Well, maybe it's because it makes us feel less abnormal. Maybe it gives us security. Maybe it gives us relief that we're not the only ones who get caught in bad situations. Or who get publicly embarrassed. We fear being alone. We'd rather go with the crowd than stand up for what is morally correct. We'd rather hurt someone else than be hurt ourselves.
Honestly? Well, I'm going to be my usual depressing self. I don't think it'll change much. Except that maybe there will be more accountability for the offender. Maybe they'll get the punishment they deserve. But I know it'll still happen. I know people will still get hurt. You can't EVER stop bullying. Maybe you can try to prevent it, but it will never truly stop.
Anti-bullying laws will impact cases like this by creating more awareness. By saying outright that bullying is wrong. That it is a CRIME. That people get hurt. Sometimes so badly that they feel like they can't go on.
Anti-bullying laws are good in theory, but how can we implement them and 'hold' them? How can we catch every single one? The answer is we can't. But we can try. And as long as people are willing to try, there's still hope for us. There's still a chance that we can change. And the more awareness that there is, the more people will be willing to step up. To stand up for what is right.
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